The Play Way: How Toy-Free Play Can Transform Behaviour
At Treat to Train, we’re always looking for compassionate, science-based approaches to help dogs thrive—and few approaches embody that better than The Play Way, developed by the brilliant Dr. Amy Cook.
We recently had the joy of speaking with Amy on the Barkology Podcast, where she walked us through this innovative, relationship-first method for supporting dogs who are reactive, anxious, or just struggling to feel safe in the world.
So what is The Play Way, and why is it such a game changer?
What Is The Play Way?
The Play Way is a therapeutic, food- and toy-free style of play that helps dogs feel safe, understood, and in control. It’s not about exciting your dog or playing tug—it’s about using consensual, interactive play to lower stress, support emotional regulation, and build trust between you and your dog.
In Amy’s words:
“The Play Way is about social play between you and your dog—no toys, no food, just connection.”
It’s particularly helpful for dogs who struggle with reactivity, fear-based behaviours, or overstimulation, but it can also benefit any dog who needs a bit more emotional safety in their interactions.
What Behaviour Challenges Can It Help With?
The Play Way is designed to support dogs experiencing:
Fear or uncertainty around people, dogs, or environments
Overstimulation and frustration
Mild aggression or reactivity that stems from feeling unsafe
Difficulty calming down after arousal spikes
However, it’s not suitable for every situation. It isn’t a recommended approach for:
Owner-directed aggression
Separation-related issues (although it may be a helpful adjunct)
Dog-dog relationship problems
Why Play?
Play may seem simple, but it has powerful neurological and emotional effects. When done well, social play helps shift the dog’s internal state, bringing them out of a stress response and into a space where learning and connection are possible.
Amy explains:
“We’re not using play to distract from the problem; we’re using it to create safety so the dog can process the problem.”
It’s not about cues or commands. It’s about listening, adjusting, and being a co-regulator with your dog.
How Does It Work?
The Play Way includes six key elements:
Greeting – Introducing yourself with open body language and zero pressure.
Invitation – Subtly inviting the dog to engage, but letting them choose.
Conversation – Taking turns, observing responses, and pausing when they pause.
Style – Adjusting the type of play to your dog’s preferences (e.g., chase vs. peekaboo).
Scaffolding – Modifying your energy level to avoid overwhelm or disinterest.
Control – Letting the dog guide the interaction, stop and start, or opt out.
The goal? A dog-led experience where safety, consent, and connection come first.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Many people assume play should be fast and exciting—but in therapeutic play, less is more. Amy highlights common errors like:
Overstimulating the dog
Repeating movements too often
Not pausing for the dog’s feedback
Taking over the play rather than co-creating it
Instead, she encourages us to be curious, light-hearted, and most of all, responsive.
Final Thoughts
The Play Way reminds us that healing isn’t just about technique—it’s about relationship. When we slow down, listen, and play with empathy, we give our dogs the best chance to relax, feel safe, and grow in confidence.
If you'd like to dive deeper into The Play Way, we highly recommend listening to our full episode with Dr. Amy Cook on the Barkology Podcast.